Keep a separate account for having a child for your elders, for the marriage, and for old age
Grade CMedium benefitMoneyFreeLittle timeSome willpower
Someone else wanting you to have a child can be a factor you weigh. The time and the money, though, are on your own account. "Raising a child to provide for your old age" needs its own line, because it bets on another person's means and willingness 20 years later. Also write down the consequences of not having a child, and compare the sides.
- Cost
- It costs no money. What it costs is 1 serious conversation. The hard part is saying it plainly, without talking around it.
- Benefit
- The approach is the same as in Section 10. Other people's expectations can be a factor you weigh. The cost goes on your own account, not on theirs. "Raising a child to provide for your old age" especially needs its own line, because it assumes another person's means and willingness 20 years later.
- Notes
- Write down the consequences of not having a child, and set them next to the consequences of having a child. An account written on only a single side is not an account.
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- 作者经验，无直接文献；同类分析见第 10 节